Personal

Adventures in Spain & Greece and What Happens Next – European Travel Photography

Ever since my dad moved in I’ve been wondering what will happen to me, to him, to my life with my husband and beyond. Some days I get very sad about all of it. I’m sad because my dad’s health is in decline and because getting older is tough. I’m sad because instead of delighting in raising a family of my own, I am steadfast with my father knowing that one day will be our goodbye. I’m sad because while I live in this small world of everyday activities and errands, I have friends who I never see and friends who never call on me just to ask me how I’m doing. They all have excuses not to reach out because they all have families of their own but I guess that doesn’t necessarily make it okay. It’s just the way it is. I get bummed out about the whole thing and then other days it doesn’t bother me a bit. I tell myself it’s fine because I have everything I need right here. I have my husband, my dad, our dogs, my daily routine, my work and I even have my dad’s cat here to fill my time. Those days are the easy days for me. I wish for those days every time my head starts to hurt and my neck and shoulders tense up from stress. My husband and I were always the ones reaching out to plan get togethers with friends and family but I have reached the point of exhaustion and I no longer care to here the word no more often than not when we do try to plan something. I miss all the things about being surrounded by everyone I know and love. I miss knowing that I could call a friend at a moment’s notice and swing by to say hello. I even feel angry sometimes that all my friends with families of their own seem to forget that there will always be a pang of sadness inside me when I see them with their families. I am not writing all of this stuff to bum anyone out. My words are only musings that form in the in between moments of the day when the world gets quiet and I start to think too much. My inner self is a worrier. My outer self is a dynamic goof ball hell bent on having…

I am a dog person through and through. I have had a dog in my life since I was very young and even after the heartbreak of losing our Rusty and Sophie, we continue to have dogs in our lives. After Sophie died I resolved to just have one dog, one very weird dog we named Griffey which was very hard to accept in some ways. Griffey is sweet and he does have a gentleness to him but we surmise he was abused quite a bit living on the streets in Baja and unfortunately he is filled with anxiety in most situations outside our home. A hard pill to swallow when our two previous dogs followed us around the house, slept next to us on the couch as we watched tv and always greeted guests at our front door with a tail wag. I could do a whole blog about all of Griffey’s quirks but you get the idea. We were down in Baja back in January at Pretty Horses Ranch just south of Rosarito. I knew the owner, our friend Krystal had rescued a few puppies just before Christmas and other than seeing photos of them online and thinking they were totally cute, I didn’t think much of adopting one. That is until we were there and I saw them. By the time we came for a visit there was only one left up for adoption and she was the runt of the litter. Brave, adorable and loving with a big, fat puppy belly and then I held her and she fell asleep in my arms. I remembered what it was like to hold Rusty when he was just a little guy and how I used to carry him around on my arm everywhere. It made me think about Sophie and how she would do her groans as she got comfortable snuggled up next to you. I thought about Griffey and how even though I love him for the good dog he is that I also needed a sweet snuggle puppy in my life. I held her in my arms and squealed to Jesse that I wanted to take her home. All the while in the back of my mind wondering if it would be a big mistake. Jesse is always great. He was in from the moment I said I wanted her but he also knows me and…

Looking at these photos is bittersweet for me. Matt and Elena have been dear friends of ours for years. Just days after this session, they packed up the rest of their belongings and moved their family to Guam for the next three years. Of course the girls got together about a week before for dinner, drinks and what ended up being a late night full of laughter ending in tearful goodbyes. I may not have tons of girlfriends but the ones I have are amazing and precious. Elena is one of them and I hope I get to keep her for a good long time. I hear her laugh as I look at these photos again. Matt’s giggle is there too mixed with his unending knowledge for all things historic and native plant related. Emerson’s high pitched scream that could drive a mom to drink is there and just thinking about it makes me want to laugh because what can you do?! Nolan and his sweet nature and easy smile are something I wish I could have known more of before they left and I only hope that when and if they come back to San Diego I can somehow be part of his life. My dear friends, you are so far away but loved even more than you can imagine. Life is weird how it winds and pushes us but I am so fortunate to have our separate lives meet on that path. I’m crying typing this so I’m going to stop and remind you that I love you, I miss you and we will see one another again. Much love to you. My hope is that while you are on this crazy island adventure that your life is full of sunshine, delicious fruit, gorgeous sunsets and no typhoons.

I have known these two for years. I first met them through mutual friends and even though we didn’t always run in the same circles, I always enjoyed their company. I had the honor back in 2012 to photograph their wedding in Washington state. It’s been a gift over the years to continue providing photos for these two. It had been quite some time since I had last seen Jen when she contacted me to do this session. I was blown away by how gorgeous she looked on this day. She was wearing an absolute perfect dress for the occasion and both she and her baby bump were glowing. Johnny is always so sweet and loving with Jen and on several occasions as I was shooting he would just look at her and remind her how beautiful she looked. I share a common experience with these two concerning dogs. Jen and Johnny lost their beloved dog Buddy about 6 months or so before I lost my love doggy Rusty. Naturally dog lovers always end up with another dog despite the pain and sadness of losing one. After meeting their new dog Della, I am sure we STILL share a similar experience but now it’s because we both have silly, skittish dogs. My Griffey is our beautiful weirdo and Della is their little ball of cute nerves. She spent half the shoot happily following me around and the other half wanting me to back away. Too close, too close! I get it girl! I respect your need for space. Please enjoy these gorgeous photos of Jen, Johnny and their little Della.

As you can probably guess Bird Park is one of my go to spots for family sessions. It just a lovely little park not far from where I live, parking is always easy and the view of downtown is amazing. I was pleasantly surprised to find that mom and dad were both familiar with the park because at one time in their lives, before kids, they lived in University Heights. Clients get turned around a bit when it’s their first time to this park so it was great not to have to worry about that factor with this family. Booking this session was pure luck for me. I meet Andrea when I was at her house with a close friend of mine. Andrea is a rep for the most amazing company that sells children’s books. Of course I ended up buying a ton of books for my two nephews. A new client of mine who is also friends with my friend who had brought me to Andrea’s was also there. I had just done her family session the day before and she was giving tons of positive feedback about the experience. I am always so grateful for positive word of mouth but in the back of my mind I am always thinking that a potential new client may not even think twice about contacting me. You can imagine my excitement to book this family session! I really hope this family loves their photos and will be in touch as the years go by. There is a big part of me that remains a realist about booking new clients sessions. That part of me always tells myself this could be a one time thing and I may never hear from them again but I truly hope that I was able to create a fun experience for them and they feel they MUST come back to me again and again.

Forgive me if I keep this post brief. My life is in complete frustration today as I navigate through all the difficulties of caring for my father and his dementia. I look at these photos and think how much joy this family must experience having children in their lives. I’m sure there’s great frustration too but I like to think the smiles come much easier for them than they do for me on days like this one. I am grateful to have new clients and new families to photograph. I am grateful for the beauty in diversity and to experience the love shared between family members. I also like that they brought their dogs! This is all I want to do with my life. I just want to keep shooting, keep meeting families and keep creating a little piece of something fun that makes for a great memory when they look back on the photos. I hope that I was able to do this for Alexa and her family.

My dad and I just got back from a walk and he’s now fast asleep. I was thinking how hopeless I feel these days as I watch the dad I know slip away into most certain uncertainty. It made me feel very far away from the person who loves photography and loves her job and it made me wonder if parents have a somewhat similar feeling when raising children. For obvious reasons, I know caring for a parent and caring for a child isn’t quite the same but I imagine there are some similarities. Andrea and Jon are first time parents to a beautiful boy and as I looked back through these images I wondered if they have days of struggle. To look at the three of them in this perfect setting, they are beautiful but even behind beauty there must be some difficulty. Or maybe all those jokes comedians make about beautiful people are true! They’re just cruising through life! I guess I’m feeling a bit reflective today but honestly this is the one thing I think about most of all. Am I struggling in ways similar to a parent and if I am, how do I keep going? I know this sounds depressing and I promise you I’m okay. Caring for my dad just brings me to deep thought sometimes and it also brings me to go deep into a bottle of wine. That’s my favorite part, the wine! Don’t worry I’m not a drunk and I won’t be showcasing any daredevil moves on top of a bridge. Just putting it out there to see if I get any feedback. Although, who am I kidding?! I’m really not even sure anybody reads this blog! But just in case they do, I would like to put it out there that the Target box wine is pretty delicious and I would be happy to be paid to tell everyone how much I love it. I know, box wine, sounds kind of hillbilly. Wine has evolved so much over the years and now you can just buy it in a cardboard box and keep it protected in it’s own plastic bladder! Doesn’t that sound elegant?!! I’ve gone off course with this post. You see what wine does to me?! Even talking about it lifts my mood which brings me to my point. The day I meet with this family was quite…

Okay, okay I’m a little biased with this session because Katie is one of my closest friends and I love her family. I love everything about them. I love her husband’s big heart and crankiness or as we like to call it, his frumpiness. I love their boys and their sweet tender nature and most of all I love Katie and all her grace. I also feel like this shoot was magical because the light gave us some deep, dark tones. I love a little drama in my photos. I’m not going to say too much about this session because I feel like the work speaks for itself. All I can say is that I was overwhelmed with happiness with how well this session went. It was just one of those days where I was fueled to get back home and onto my computer to see all of the images. I always try and give my clients same day previews and I always have a goal of a 24-48 hour turn around with their final gallery. I think I woke up the next day after this one and finished the pics before I even made myself coffee. My heart is filled with love for these four people. I care for them so much and it warms my heart to know their boys are comfortable around me. Not having children of my own can be a bummer at times but getting some kind of recognition from my friend’s kids means that I am making an impact. I honestly wish I played a bigger part in their lives but I’ve got my hands full over here so hopefully I will keep connecting with them as they grow.

I’m more than just a little behind on my blogging. Every since just after Thanksgiving life has been a little full. My mom came in town for a long visit through the holidays and she actually just left yesterday. Her visit was twofold as we needed her to help with my dad while Jesse and I took a little respite in Vegas for a few days. We also wanted her here so she could take advantage of spending time with the grandkids and spending the holidays together as a family. Boy I really overestimated my family once again and how “fun” it would actually be. Is anyone’s family actually fun when the time rolls around to get together? I feel like with my family the idea is always more alluring than the reality. There are fleeting moments of happiness when we are all together but I find that it feels more trying than I had originally envisioned. Perhaps part of the blame is placed on me because I photograph these seemingly perfect moments between all of these families and think that somehow they are less complicated than my own. The realistic side of me knows that no family is perfect but the idealistic side of me is always left wanting more. I like to live vicariously through my clients and imagine that life is always full of more smiles than frowns. Looking back on the photos I did of the Hamada family leaves me hoping that perhaps the experience was a memorable one and they will be able to look back on it fondly in the future. Truthfully that is my only hope with photographing families. I hope that I create a positive photo experience and that one day they will all look back and laugh and all the stress of whatever happened behind the scenes will evaporate.

I was thinking this morning about travel and how when I was younger I wanted to travel any and everywhere for work as much as possible. I still love to travel for work but now I find as I age, I am more selective and my desire to combine work and travel has waned. I have shifted into wanting to travel for pleasure and time away. Of course I do make exceptions for clients I love and once in a lifetime occasions to shoot in places like Santorini. The Kugler family fall into that category of clients I love and it has become our unspoken agreement to trade off every year photographing in San Diego and Orange County. This was a San Diego year and knowing how much this family loves outdoors and nature settings we chose Marian Bear Park for an early morning session. I like to joke that I am a “lazy” photographer and will utilize a small area of space to create a variety of images. Truthfully, certain locations can be daunting with children in tow and I like to keep thing easy on everyone. Marian Bear is a gorgeous spot that can mean hiking in and discovering a beautiful clearing but then again offering up a hike to clients in their nice clothes isn’t always the perfect fit. My joke this year was that this family made that parking lot look good! Now that I’ve divulged all my secrets, tell me what you think! I just love this family and it’s a gift every time they call me up for another session.